Hey Kids out there :)
I see a lot of posts about bullying and it breaks my heart a little.
You see I’ve been bullied too when I was a kid and so was my brother. It was more than fifteen years ago and it really makes me sad to see things don’t change.
I was bullied first for refusing to bully another little girl.
That was in elementary school, and a rumor had started about her. Something I can’t even remember. But the popular kids decided she didn’t have to have friends anymore and that everybody had to stop talking to her.
She wasn’t in my class, and I didn’t even know her, but the day I heard that, I went to sit close to her on a bench and I said hi.
She said, you shouldn’t do that, then you’ll be friendless like me.
I replied I didn’t care. I didn’t need assholes or cowards to be my friends, and if it meant I had to spend the rest of the year alone, then so be it.
And if they insulted me I would beat the shit out of them.
Then the year after I first got bullied for being a nerd.
After weeks of harassment I finally confronted my main bully and slammed her head on the school’s gate.
Then when I arrived in junior high, the kids who bullied my brother tried to bully me.
I threatened them physically, and since I was a tall girl, they got scared.
Now you think, I’m gonna advise you to start throwing punches.
You see what I didn’t do? I didn’t seek for help.
I didn’t talk about my situation to adults.
That’s what you need to do.
Years later when I was working with children, I always told them there was absolutely no shame in asking for help,
That as an adult I wasn’t their enemy but their ally and that I was old enough to solve their conflicts in an equitable way.
Violence is a circle, and so is silence.
Tell your parents, tell your counselors.
I’m here if you need some advise.